I Will Not Take Things Personally

This week was the last week of my Life Coaching and Wellness Course and though my coach and mentor said it probably every week for the last 16 weeks, this week I wrote down this message and it really resonated with me. Maybe it resonated because it was something I needed to hear but maybe it resonated because I was also meant to share it with you.

It is so easy to take what others may think, feel or say personally, but how often do we truly know what they are thinking and feeling? In all honesty, unless you are a mind reader (which I am not) we cannot truly know what the other person is feeling or thinking. I have certainly feel victim to this mentality. Thinking I knew what the other person was thinking and of course believing they were judging me in the worst way (and who knows maybe they were), but when I think of this rationally I remember the only thoughts I can control are my own. So why am I bothering trying to alter someone else's opinions of me, or better yet guessing what they are thinking and then trying to alter them. We often times get so far in our heads that we imagine we are being judged. What if instead when you felt this coming on, you repeated the following mantra,"I will not take this personally, I will not take you personally" how much of a difference would this make? Now hear me out this can't just be a mantra that you recite, you also have to believe it- now you don't have to fully believe it is the caveat, you just have to believe it enough that you can realize you have no control over someone else's opinion of you. Ultimately their opinion of you is really none of your business. Now this one I struggle with a bit, if I am being honest because we have to care to some degree about how our actions impact others, but if we are acting from a place of kindness, authenticity and service our actions should never cause harm to another and that there is the key! Remember to honour yourself but also to want the best for the other person- which is sometimes very hard.

The fact is you aren't always going to agree with everyone, you also aren't always going to be for everyone and that is perfectly alright. Just remember not to take them personally, and remember your worth does not depend on the other person. You are valuable and worthy without their acceptance and if repeating the mantra "I will not take it personally, I will not take you personally" many times in your head is the key to your self realization, then I have done my work here.

Please remember dear souls you have every right to be here the same as the next person, and you are worthy, valuable and loved by so many- you do not need to be loved by all. So please remember to not take it personally when someone says something that can hurt you, or makes you feel like you are inferior and remember that what you think they are thinking and feeling may very well not be the case at all. Have grace with yourself and even if you get it wrong at first or forget this mantra, you can always try the next time and the time after that.

With love and light,

Leah